Guy’s Eye View

For a youngster the thought processing mainly involves two things: Love and Girls. And I guess you must be thinking why I didn’t mention academics in that list… seriously… no… nooooo….!

So, first the girls… The phenomenon I should say starts early in a guys life. In primary school, the boy sticks to his gang of friends (boys), watching cartoon, playing in dirty sand and his toys. The boy hates girls (he says this… but I doubt) There is always the chalk throwing and paper throwing. Boys and girls are two gangs always involved in fighting and complaining to teacher. But if you look at in a different point of view, there is famous law, opposite poles attract each other ;) And I believe this is where the first seed of “the phenomenon” is planted. Forwarding a few years, the boy goes into higher classes. This is when he starts acting “cool” listening to English songs, doing hair style… All these he will have a laugh when he grows old. And the fighting with girls magically stops… the boy doesn’t fight with the girls but he won’t talk to them either… but steals a glance at every chance he gets… And for every guy there is always a girl for who he develops a soft corner… this is not infatuation or love... so I call it “the phenomenon” (and don’t believe guys who says he hasn’t gone through this… that is a lie) 

The boy enters senior class (say eleventh or twelfth), he starts listening to melodies and real music, starts building a true character. I believe this is the time where they guys divide…the “dudes” and “ordinary”… The dudes have the guts to talk to girls goes ahead but the ordinary doesn’t. This is something to ponder, why is talking to a girl so difficult?! She is not going to kill or an exploding bomb! But few things are difficult to explain in life this is one of those. The “dude” meanwhile steers past the “ordinary” making the “ordinary” very much jealous. The poor “ordinary” guy tries to put up a smile when he sees a girl but his guts is so bad that lips don’t curve enough to make a smile!! The “ordinary” guy is frustrated with his efforts and enters college. 

Now, in the transition from school to college, the guy comes across the chapter of “love”. Every human being has their own definition of love. He must have seen so many love stories and girls. He gets confused on the word “love”. How would he know who is the right person? Who should he run after? Or is it better not to run? Looking at his past life he is sure that no girl is fall into his hands… Who? How? “Ordinary” guy becomes more frustrated and confused with him attempts with girls, but the real reason is he never had the guts. When the “Ordinary” guys hang out for “bird watching”, this is generally what happens. A gorgeous girl coming at a distance, one gang members alerts the gang. But there are few moments when a girl passes by the “ordinary” guy do not alert his mates. He doesn’t know why the reason he did that. She looks beautiful to his eyes. Now why the difference, it is because the other girls seen by him are his fantasy but this one girl is “real”. Let me explain, consider Aishwarya Rai, every “ordinary” guy likes her and wants a date with her but he knows that she cannot be his love or wife; this is called a “fantasy”. And “the phenomenon” with “real” girl might turn into “love” if he decides to persuade it.

People say “love at first sight” or  “love after getting to know each other” in all these cases few things can be assured, these people are brave, live a life they want and willing to adjust to see the other happy.  So the question is not about how do I get one or who should I choose, it is about how ready you are.

Note: These are just my views; don’t blame me if it doesn’t work out. And I haven’t said anything about girl’s point of view because let’s just say ‘No one knows what girls want’ ;) ;)